Never Settle and Always Adapt

Quick Blog Update:  Before I begin I just want to update everyone on where I'm taking this blog.  I have stopped posting Feature Fridays and will now only be posting on Mondays.  As much as I love fitness, I do not want it to be the main focus of this blog.  I want this to be a space for people to explore their feelings, beliefs, challenges, mindset, and interpretation of the world around them.  I want to challenge the norm and hope to give people a different perspective or insight on their lives.  With that being said, let's jump into today's topic.

Never Settle and Always Adapt

We are all constantly changing, adapting, and responding to the environment that surrounds us.  Everything that is said to you or that's happened to you can have a huge impact on how you view yourself, and how you feel about the world.  People who grew up in a negative environment tend to form a negative self image and a negative outlook on what they think they deserve in life.  It isn't until we surround ourselves with positive people that we realize our true potential and how much we are capable of doing in this world.  We really can have it all, but it all depends on how willing you are to constantly adapt and change.

I never like staying in one place.  My mind is constantly moving and I am always looking for ways to improve my mindset and communicate in a healthy way.  I desire to be around people who also strive toward changing for the better and improving themselves daily.  I enjoy when people welcome change and when I have friends who challenge me to do more than I did yesterday.  When you are stuck and in feelings of negativity, guilt, anger, worthlessness, and depression, you are only attracting more of those feelings and the same kind of people into your life to fulfill those feelings.  You rob yourself of your own potential and happiness when you become too stubborn to change and open up to the world around you.

Here's something I've learned that can help in any situation, whether it's in a job or new venture you are pursuing, or the way you communicate with friends and family.

I.B.R. (Intention. Behavior. Results)

If you've ever been in a situation where you've said something hurtful to someone, ask yourself, "What was my intention when I said that?"

Then what behavior did you exhibit to get your intention across?

Finally, what was the result?  

If the result does not line up with your intention, then you need to ask yourself what you can do differently (behavior) next time to have the result you wanted.  If you want your result to be positive rather than negative, shifts in behavior can decide the outcome of any situation.

This process can dramatically change how you communicate in relationships and also how you set goals for yourself in your professional lives.  Is there a project you are working on that you have a deadline for?  Make sure you take the necessary steps action to get the result you require. If your behavior is to procrastinate, then recognize that as a behavior that needs to change and make steps to improve it in order to get the result you want.

Realizing What You're Worth

It's important to realize that throughout your process of changing that certain people will enter your life for the better and that other ones may need to leave for your greater good.  Learning to control emotions logically is what separates those who can let go of people who bring you down and those who choose to hold on.  If you're surrounded by people who do nothing but bring you down and make you feel bad, it may be time to learn to let go.  Sometimes those people can be the closest people to you like friends and family.  Never settle for friendships and connections who do not uplift and bring you happiness.  Although we are ultimately alone, we are all in this world together going through the same struggles and hardships.  Choose to embrace people who take their struggles as learning opportunities and a chance to grow.  

Changing can be hard, but there isn't one thing, person, animal, or plant that is immune to it.  Those who try to fight is will also fight their potential to see how amazing they can become and will be stuck in negativity, but those who embrace change are those who grow into amazing successful people and build relationships and friendships that last a lifetime.  

My hope for all of you is that you embrace change and that you learn to love yourselves for exactly where you are and exactly where you're going.  Let go of those things that are weighing you down and move on.  The past doesn't change so worrying and reliving it will not serve your greater good.  We all deserve the best, but receiving the best all depends on how much you believe you deserve it.  

Happy Monday and stay warm :)