Who Are You Attracting Into Your Life?
Take a moment to think about all the people in your life. Your friends, family, significant other, and ask yourself why you have a relationship with them. What topics do you connect with them about? What similarities do you have? More times than not, we connect with people who share similar views, values, beliefs, motivations, and goals as us. If you are a motivated, ambitious person, you will tend to be drawn toward other motivated and ambitious people. However, the flip side is also true. If you are lazy, negative, and insecure, you will tend to attract other negative, lazy and insecure people to fulfill your need to stay that way. So what does this have to do with your body weight?
Fit or Fat?
Why is it that when you see a couple, they tend to have the same or similar body shape and look? Obviously this is not always true, but I'd say that the majority of the time, couples tend to reflect each other when it comes to their body image and physique. A heavier person will usually be with another heavier or unhealthy person, and a fit person will tend to be with another fit person. Is this just a coincidence? Probably not. Science will tell you that we tend to be attracted to people with similar features as ourselves because it creates a sense of trust and genetic compatibility. Think of all the couples you know and you will probably start to realize that their facial features, body type, and even sometimes styles are very similar.
Often times, the media will portray a certain cookie cutter look which then becomes the social norm and the image that everyone strives for. For guys, it's the 6-pack abs and muscular physique and for girls it tends to change with the times. One month it might be in to be skinny and the next month it could be having an ass like a Kardashian. So how do we filter all the changing trends in society? What does this mean for you and what should you strive for?
Are You Your Best You?
If you're heavy, skinny, fit, or flabby and you are happy with the way you look and the way your life is going, then hey, keep doing what you're doing! But if you're reading this and thinking, well shoot, I don't exactly look how I want to look, or I probably could lose a few pounds, or I wish I did have a hot significant other and more motivated and positive friends, it's never too late to change. My opinion about societal trends? Don't follow them. Follow what's right for you. If you have a certain image in your mind of how you want to look, work towards that goal and don't listen to the opinions of others.
Many times I've heard guys tell me, "I would hate to be with a girl who had better abs than me." Or " I don't find muscular girls attractive." Well, 9 times out of 10, those guys aren't very motivated to get in shape themselves. I've also heard guys who have said they love fit and in shape girls. Attraction is all objective, so don't let anyone's opinion convince you to stop reaching your goals. People who talk down to you for trying to lose weight or get in shape do not offer value to your goals; they will only inhibit them from becoming a reality if you listen.
Just the other day I was talking to a co-worker about a nutritional program I've been on, and he said, "You already look great! Why do you need to be doing that?" He looked at me as if I was crazy. Well, that person's opinion offers no value to me because he does not have the same goals, motivation, or drive as I do. Just because I already look great, that doesn't mean I should just stop doing what I'm doing. I will continue to work toward my goals and push myself to achieve more because it makes me happy and makes me feel great when I push my body to my limits. The same should be true for you no matter what someone says to you.
Where Do I Start?
If you're ready to make a change and get in better shape, I recommend reaching out to people you look up to for fitness advice. Start surrounding yourself with people you want to be like. If you continue to surround yourself with the same people, you will only become more like them. Don't be afraid to take a chance and ask for help when you need it. Most people will feel flattered that you are asking for their advice and they will admire your commitment for wanting to make a change. Start watching YouTube videos on different exercises or fitness advice. Even starting small with a walk every day can make all the difference in beginning to create the habits for success. My question to you is this: who are you currently attracting into your life, and who do you want to attract? Do they match up? If you aren't surrounded by the people you would like in your life, start making a change. Your attractor factor is only as powerful as your will to improve.
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